THE HUSBAND OF A BREAD SELLER VERSUS THE HUSBAND OF A MODEL

I  appreciate you all for making my last article on ‘The TY Bello in Us’ go viral. I express heartfelt thanks for your wonderful feedbacks and must let you know that I deeply honour you all.

Even so, events of the last few days have left me with mixed emotions. In as much as I am so excited about the change in fortune of Olajumoke, I have also stepped aside to think through the implications of this new found fame.

As a student of life, one thing I have come to become afraid of is instant stardom. This is because from my knowledge of history especially reading through the Bible, the first man to be an instant adult fell by the way in the third chapter of Genesis (as chronicled by the legendary leader Moses).

I am a family life coach and family is everything to me. I sit in counseling sessions daily and I am amazed at the rate at which marriages fail in this part of the world and the factors responsible for these marital failures. I come out on the strength of this to sound the alarm  before what we never bargained for happens.

The attention seems to have been so much on Jumoke, the model, and I wonder what the plan is for her husband?

For the records, no story has been told of her marital relationship prior her stardom. The  Yoruba speaking Olajumoke who was intellectually compatible with her husband left the house that fateful day. But,  there is a new Jumoke now, one who has become a cynosure and the latest celeb in the nation.

What role would this play in her family life?

May I state here that all the corporate giants that have suddenly rolled out their drums to beat a new dance for Jumoke, the beautiful bride, should also extend the same gestures to her husband so we do not end up with a celeb whose marriage may struggle in days to come.

So here are my suggestions:

- The husband must be made to go through the same level of training Jumoke is exposed to. There is no point giving this man a modern wife when he may remain an ancient man. If Jumoke, the celebrity, is going to be an English speaking one, her husband must also become one.

-  Attach the husband to a Family Life Coach or a Psychologist who can work with him to birth a mentality which matches the new status of his wife. I have seen educated men struggle with a wife who is a corporate success and can only imagine what would happen in a case as this.

- Carefully manage the relationship between Jumoke, her husband and their extended family. This is Africa and we all know the implications.

- Keep Jumoke close to TY Bello or Tara Fela-Durotoye; these are two women who have been able to match corporate success with domestic success. A scandal on our beautiful bride is a news we would not want to hear as all sorts of juicy offers will come her way. It takes a values driven person to resist some of the offers which may come from some quarters that I shall not mention here. Jumoke needs to be this values driven person; she needs to be groomed to be this person.

-Manage and pace this lady so that different platforms who may want to use her story to inspire others do not take advantage of her. If possible, shoot a one-time video which can be played for their audience as against subjecting the girl to a road show that may wear her out.

-  Care should be taken to ensure Jumoke’s innocent friends remain her friends because the friends she may make now may not be true friends. Her fellow breadsellers should be upgraded if possible till she develops a new mindset that can match her new status

I am so happy for our newest model. We must tread with caution withal so that this success story can stand the test of time and give birth to more success.

Praise Fowowe

SCHOOL CHILDREN SET GOOD EXAMPLE FOR NIGERIAN LEADERS ON ELECTIONS

What a way to show Nigerian leaders how to conduct peaceful, free and fair elections.

The pictures below show the orderliness and good conduct of the Election of the President, Civic Education Society of Ansar-Ud-Deen Junior Grammar, Badagry, Lagos.

Observers say "the election was exemplary and how well the Nigerian Child wishes to see his country and its citizens conduct themselves during elections."

Also the school authority deserves accolades for imbibing the spirit of civic engagement in these future leaders at this tender age.

WE DID NOT RECOVER $1M FROM AMOSU’S SOAK AWAY PIT - EFCC

The EFCC has debunked reports making the
rounds that the anti-graft agency recovered $1m
from Amosu’s Badagry home when it was
searched.
A source disclosed that about $117,000 was
recovered from the home of the ex-NAF boss.
The source added, “There have been reports that
$1m was recovered from a soak away in
Amosu’s Badagry home. This is not true.
“The actual amount recovered was about
$117,000 and it was kept in a safe in the house
and not in a soak away. The money is currently
in our exhibit room. We also recovered N200, 000
in cash from the house.”
Explaining the modus operandi of the suspects,
the EFCC detective explained that the suspects
usually used their wives to carry out the shady
deals.
He said before transferring money, the Air Force
officers would use third parties to set up
companies and bank accounts, to which their
wives would be signatories.
It was learnt that the military officers would then
make phantom transactions and transfer money
into the bank accounts of the companies while
their wives would take possession of the sums.
“Amosu’s wife, Omolara, was arrested when she
came to see her husband in detention. She
cooperated with us and we have also recovered
money from the company. Adigun’s wife, Helen,
also did the same.
“They have both been released,” the source
stated.
About 11 Air Force officers are currently under
investigation by the commission
The source said Adigun had been released by
the EFCC but did not say whether the NAF chief
was released on bail or if he had returned any
money to the anti-graft agency.
However, the spokesman for the EFCC, Mr.
Wilson Uwujaren, was unable to confirm the
recoveries.
“The investigation into the arms scandal is still
ongoing and I am not able to comment on
specific recoveries,” he said.
Amosu and 10 senior officers are being probed
by the EFCC as part of investigations into the
$2.1bn arms scam, especially in relation to the
10 contracts of the NAF, said to be worth
$930,500,690.00.
Last week, the immediate past Chief of Defence
Staff, Air Chief Marshal Alex Badeh (retd.), was
detained by the anti-graft agency.
Both Badeh and Amosu are answering questions
on the non-specification of procurement costs,
absence of contract agreements, award of
contracts beyond authorised thresholds, transfer
of public funds for unidentified purposes and
general non-adherence to provisions of the
Public Procurement Act.

NCS Seme Command records revenue drop in January

The Seme Command of Nigeria Customs Service (NCS) on Monday said it generated N655.3m as revenue in January.

The spokesman for the command, Selechang Taupyen told newsmen in Seme that the revenue was N743m lower than the 1.4bn generated in December.

“In the month of January, the revenue the command generated was lower than the previous month because of the low volume of activities witnessed due to the strike by Beninoise customs.

“Also, the high exchange rate and the uncompromising resolve of the new leadership to strict adherence to procedures and guidelines contributed to low revenue generated.

“But in all these, command will definitely improve on the revenue collection as we are determined to surpass our monthly target of 1.1 billion,” he said.

Taupyen said the command made 40 seizures in the month under review with a Duty Paid Value (DPV) of N20.5 million.

“The seized items include bags of rice, frozen poultry products, vegetable oil, vehicles amongst others,” he said.

The spokesman urged Nigerians to desist from smuggling and embrace legitimate trade.

“Smuggling is dangerous to the economy, so Nigerians should embrace legitimate trade because it helps to improve the economy, which in turn would benefit everyone,” he said.